Recently we looked at the beautiful possibilities presented by a wedding with a white theme (White Weddings That Are Hot, November 10, 2009). This week we’re going to look at a different kind of white wedding: one that happens when it’s snowing outside.

Winter Wedding Wonderland

A snowy setting can be a winter wonderland but it also presents it’s own challenges. For example, it’s cold out and we want the beautiful b-r-r-r-r-r-r-bride to look gorgeous (and comfortable) in the photos.

What to Wear

Winter Wedding Photography Tips is an article that offers some expert advice (it looks like they are based out of Utah so they know what they are talking about). They advise you to bring a cape or jacket to keep warm between shots, bring hand warmers, wear warm leggings under your dress, and that you can wear boots in the snow because your dress will hide them!

Light Up The Night

An evening wedding in a snowy setting give you an opportunity to shine. Select a venue with floor to ceiling windows looking out on to a park. Decorate the outdoors with hundreds of tiny white lights and stage your entrance for maximum effect.

Arrive in a horse and carriage.

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An outdoor arrival also allows you and your wedding party the exciting opportunity to dress for the occasion! Check out this stunning floor length fur cape.

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Bring the Outdoors Inside

Run a luxurious white carpet down the church aisle and decorate the aisle seating with white feathers that will evoke fluffy snow. Make sure you have an ice sculpture at your reception, of course – or, go all out and get an ice bar!

Some Cool Examples

Most importantly, no matter what the season, your wedding should also be FUN for it to be a success. Here are some examples of beautiful weddings that don’t take themselves too seriously.

Crystal Mountain Resort & Spa Michigan – the bride wears a white coat over her dress and the children in the wedding party wear black bottoms with white winter coats. The snow (and the exercise!) accentuate her rosy cheeks, making her a true blushing bride. From the footage it seems like the wedding manages to be fun and beautiful at the same time.

Another fun example from Sun Peaks resort in British Columbia Canada. The wedding took place at a cute mountain chapel on clear, sunny winter day. The flower girl leaves petals along the snow path in vibrant colors. The bridesmaids wear dresses with cute winter boots. The father of the bride looks cool as can be in sunglasses to shield his eyes from the sun bouncing off the snow (or to hide his tears if he get misty!). Check out the end when the bride casually snowboards down the slopes in her dress!

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Today more older brides walk down the aisle than ever before. There are many factors calling for the older brides saying their “I do.” We now live much longer lives – and are marrying later than brides of earlier years. Higher education is more widely available – and many delay marriage until they complete degrees. Additionally there are many second or third marriages taking places. These marriages most often happen when a bride is just a bit older and sometimes wiser.

It used to be there were somewhat strict etiquette and social rules that older brides were expected to follow. An older bride was “permitted” to get married – but she was to do so with little muss and fuss. Most older brides did not wear a fancy veil or a long white dress. A dressy light colored dress was often selected for their wedding. Even the celebration was somewhat toned down. It was expected that the older bride would want a more er, graceful celebration. But do today’s older brides have rules to follow?

The answer is yes and no. In every family, society and culture there may be certain expectations of a bride. No matter your age, you may be expected to do specific things or wear something because you are a bride. Quite often the great difference with the older bride is that she has stronger opinions about what she will and won’t do. Very often the younger bride has the wedding that is determined and approved of by her parents. The older bride has the wedding that is approved of by herself and the groom.

The older bride in most cases will pay for her own wedding or pay for it with help from the groom. This can have a great deal to do with the older bride having stronger opinions about what she does and does not want – it is after all her money and her choice to spend it on as she wishes. The bride’s parents when paying for a wedding may put their foot down subtlety and “suggest” things in a way that lets her know they are expected. An older bride is more likely to make her own choices.

Some may frown on the older bride who marries all in white, wearing a sparkly tiara and big flowing veil. But the older bride typically marries in what she chooses. If she desires to marry in the “princess” fantasy then this is what she will select. If the bride prefers another style for her wedding she will choose that instead.

A wedding may be a family affair but it is also traditionally the bride’s day. No one knows this more than the older bride. Your wedding is a day you’ll remember for the rest of the day with your beloved. You deserve to spend it as you choose, wearing what you like and enjoying the things you like the most. You could say that older brides make their own rules – we do!

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This is the first in a two part series about monogrammed items for weddings.

Today we feature wedding cake toppers in the monogram style.

How Do Monograms Work?

Here are some guidelines for how to create a monogram for you and your fiance(e). The bride and groom should decide what letters will make up their monogram, and it is proper etiquette for others to ask before having any gifts or wedding items monogrammed.

3 Letter Style

Traditionally the middle letter is the first letter of the groom’s last name. The letters go in the following order: first letter of wife’s first name, first letter of groom’s last name, first letter of groom’s first name. For example, if John Smith and Roberta Aster marry, their monogram would be RSJ.

1 Letter Style

The letter used here would be the shared last name of the married couple (if appropriate). For example, if John Smith and Roberta Aster marry, their monogram would be S.

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4 Letter Style

This style works for blended last names (for example brides who will hyphenate their last names or just keep their original last name). For example, if John Smith and Roberta Aster marry, their monogram would be RSAJ (first letter bride’s first name, first letter bride’s last name, first letter groom’s last name, first letter groom’s first name).

2 Letter Style

This is another option for blended last names, where you just use the first letter of each last name (beginning with the bride’s last name). In the example above, this monogram would be S-A.

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Ampersand Style

For a more contemporary and less formal look you might choose to use an ampersand (that’s the ‘and’ symbol). In this case, you use the first letter of both first names (example: Roberta and John turns into R&J)

Heart Style

Another fun look – connect the two first names with a heart (example:  Roberta hearts John)

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Last Names – Other Guidelines

Last names that start with an apostrophe or Mc (examples: O’Reagan or McDonald) still use the very first letter (in these examples: “O” and “M”).

Simply Elegant

Here is the classic monogram style for a cake topper. This style will work well with an ornately decorated cake. It would also suit an overall simple, understated look too if that is what you’re aiming for.

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Classy Glassy

This engraved glass cake topper becomes a keepsake for your china cabinet after the event.

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Crystal Clear

A sophisticated version of the Swarovski crystal monogram cake topper, available in a highly polished gold or silver finish.

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Or glam on the glitz with a glittery Swarovski version like the one below (available in all of the colors of the rainbow).

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A topper with Swarovski accents is a nice look, too.

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White Wedding

Another simple look that is surprisingly effective – white letters.

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Modern Bride

These silver-tone metal toppers are perfect for the couples who are anything but old-fashioned.

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Destination Weddings are becoming more popular every year. They are a great way to make your special event even more special. And, perhaps surprisingly, they are often less expensive than a traditional wedding in your hometown!

There are websites that will help you plan your destination wedding.

destinationweddings.com

This site boasts that 89,101 weddings have been created with its site. It allows you to create a free website for your wedding event. The site has exclusive offers for destination weddings all over the world (including cruise ships). It generates a ‘save the date’ announcement that you can send to your invited guests. Guests also make their travel arrangements through the same coordinator so that everyone can benefit from the same group rates and hotel/air packages. Guests can also purchase your wedding gift online from the honeymoon registry, which might include a day at the hotel spa or flowers for the honeymoon suite!

islandbrides.com

This site offers many of the same services but specializes in island weddings in the Caribbean (over 30 destinations).

luxedestinationweddings.com

This site advertises itself as specializing in “unique, luxury group destination weddings”. The website is impressive and worth a visit. It offers a wide variety of locations as well and allows you to customize your event with special features. This site also offers several honeymoons in its Luxe Honeymoon Collection.

After the event, photos and video of the wedding ceremony and reception can be viewed at the couple’s wedding website.

Destination Weddings: Trip Tips

1. Marriage Licenses and Laws

Laws governing marriage differ from country to country (and in some countries, the are different in each province or state). One example close to home: many people think they can just run off to Las Vegas and get married but that’s not quite true. It’s wise to get your marriage license beforehand – otherwise you might end up in a long line up. Also, the office isn’t open 24 hours so it’s not like you can suddenly decide to get hitched at 3am and then hurry over to a chapel. Getting married in Mexico? There is a 2-3 day waiting period and mandatory blood tests that cost $125 each.

2. Travel Arrangements

Don’t forget about your guests when making your travel arrangements. It’s much easier to get a group rate or package and then offer it to everyone so that your guests are all staying at the same location and you have some control over their arrival/departures. This will be easier if you find out approximately how many guests will be attending and what dates work for them first. Then you can make some plans and get back to them with an estimate of the cost before you ask them to commit.

3. Don’t Take It Personally

If you decide to have a destination wedding, be prepared that not everyone you invite will be able to attend. The positive side to this is that you extend an invitation to many people (which will make them happy) and that you will end up spending much less on the reception dinner, wedding favors, etc than you would if you had your wedding locally! The negative side is that some people you really care about may not be able to afford the travel expenses. Never, ever put pressure on them – this will only take away from the fun atmosphere at the event. This may be one of the biggest days in your life, but remember that your guests have lives of their own that they need to pay for.

Destination Weddings for Less

Expert Advice

Marcy Blum, famous event planner talks about Destination Weddings on howdini.com.

The first installment in a series about how you can prevent your wedding from becoming an example of a worst case scenario!

Today we focus on…

Part 1: The Bride

You may have heard the saying, “If you can’t be a good example, then be a cautionary tale.” Well, you don’t want to be that bride people talk about and you don’t want your wedding catastrophe viewed on youtube by millions of people, right? Here are a few tips.

1. Don’t try out any new foods in the days leading up to your wedding – you don’t want to have to deal with an allergic reaction or, worse, explosive diarrhea!

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2. Try your dress on again one week before your wedding just to make absolutely sure you fit into it properly.  Wear it for at least 1o minutes and wear all of the underthings and accessories you plan to wear on your big day. Bend over, sit down, dance, try out some stairs – anything you will be doing on the day of your wedding.

3. Wear your shoes in- how many hours will you wear them during the event? Try wearing them for this same amount of time and make sure you can do it. Sore, blistered feet will have a negative effect on your wedding night…

4. Don’t get drunk! There are already too many examples of drunken brides on YouTube. Yes you want to have fun, but remember you also want to look good in the photos and you want to REMEMBER the event! Try drinking a glass of water between each alcoholic beverage if you will find this a challenge. I found that I didn’t even have the chance to drink – I was so busy getting pictures taken, giving toasts, dancing, etc – the time by went so fast.

5. Don’t try out a new type of deodorant or tampon on your wedding day! And, seriously, don’t put deodorant on your FACE like this lady…

Any other tips? If you can think of any please share them in the comments and I might feature them in Part 2 – coming soon!